Social Media Savvy

Social media is the new wave of connectivity.  Billions of dollars are spent on research determining the best days, times, and platforms for engaging with business and consumers.  For most of us building brands for our small businesses, this strategy looks a little bit different. But if you ever hope to have a successful brand, you better have a very well thought out strategy to get you there.  I'm no expert, and I'm also no social media star.  My brand is in its very early stages of infancy, which is even more reason to develop my approach strategically.  As someone who consistently does her research, creates a plan, and then evaluates the plan, I like to think I know a little bit about being social media savvy.

So whether you're creating an empire, or simply looking for likes - create a plan for engagement and while this doesn't always ensure your success, it does increase your chances.  

Create your Voice

Who are you?  What is your brand?  What do you want your presence to say?  My blog is authentically my voice.  How I speak on here is eerily similar to how I speak in person.  I knew I wanted to be a brand that speaks to keeping it real to my experiences, values, and personality.  Whenever I write, I keep that voice consistent.  Don't confuse your base by being inconsistent.  If your followers cannot figure out who you are, they're very quickly going to lose interest in trying to find out.

Define your Audience

I get it - you want to appeal to the masses to maximize your following.  Realistically, that's not how it works.  If you don't define who your consumer is, you won't appeal to anyone.  Define what your brand is, define who that brand best relates to, and target your voice to that audience.  For example, my peers (millennials) are who spend the most time engaging with my content.  That includes young professionals and those in their early 30's.  I know that's where my strength lies and that's who I write to.  

Set a Goal

Every single thing you do in life should have a goal.  A very clearly laid out goal.  Stop saying "I want to be famous."  Having "millions of followers" is not a targeted goal.  Create a series of goals based on where you are in the building process and up your goal every time you reach success. I'd like to write a book one day.  To do that, I'd like to create a fan base - a group of people who consistently engage with my content.  In my mind, that looks like a minimum of 10,000 blog subscribers.  Everything I do for my website - I keep these goals in mind.  Of course there are many more layers to my goals, but a girl can't share her master plan with everyone.

Follow Through

I know far too many people who always want to do something.  They're going to start a fashion line, become a photographer, start a consulting firm.  But 98% of those people don't do any of those things.  They're not even mediocre at their day jobs and if you're barely keeping your main hustle, your side hustle doesn't stand a chance.  Treat your side hustle (your dreams) like a real job - because it is.  Dedicate time, hold yourself accountable to that time, and remain organized.  Sure, you could leak a sex tape and maybe be a Kardashian one day - but for 99.9% of us, that's not happening.  You're not getting discovered.  Nobody is waiting to give you a deal.  Everyone is talented, and everyone has an idea.  Not everyone is willing to put the time and effort in.

As short a list as that seems, that's a lot to do.  It's a lot of time, discipline, and making the choice to give up some fun for some good ole fashioned work.  Sure, some people get lucky.  But luck only gets you so far.  Even if you're the 1% who breaks in, I can promise you that without a plan, a brand, and a goal - you'll be just as quickly back to being a nobody before your next IG post.

 

The Five Year Plan

The best advice I have ever been given, in work and in life, is to say screw your five year plan, what's your five day plan?  How are you maximizing the seconds in your everyday to get yourself to your future goals?  Who cares about your five year plan if you spend your next five days watching Netflix?  What are you doing to make the most of your time now?

I used to live by the five year plan.  My whole life has a plan.  I think I came out of the womb planning every second of my life.  When asked about my five year plan in an interview, I have always had a detailed and kick ass response.  The truth is - I'm not doing any of the things I planned all these years.  

My last five years have been a series of four states, about as many jobs, a handful of relationships, breakups, makeups, friendships that fell apart, and friendships that became family.  I never lost those extra pounds, I don't own a house - and not one person has let me become Emperor of Sparkle.

The more I plan, the more my plans fall apart.  Adjusting my view to focus on short term has been quite the challenge.  But the more I engage in the next five minutes, the more joy I feel and the more successful I find myself (personally and professionally) in the next five years.

How many times have you put your goals on hold because you figure they're long term, there's time?  How many hours have you spent procrastinating because it didn't need to get done today?  But if you've got a goal to accomplish in five minutes - or five days - you don't have time to wait - you've got to make it happen NOW.

Let's chat examples.  My biggest career goal in life is to be happy.  To love what I do, love where I do it, and get paid enough to travel the world.  I'm not willing to wait five years for that to happen.  So I make time every single day to evaluate where I'm at in my career.  I look at what I'm doing everyday, who I'm working with, and where my finances are - and if in five days I cant find happy most of the time - I start working towards changing that.  I'm not waiting a year, or five years to say be patient, the happy will come.  I am talking to my colleagues, bosses, mentors, and I'm saying I love this, I don't love this - help me figure out where I can adjust, where you can adjust - so that I'm happy.

In my personal life, I struggle with health and wellness.  I get sick often, beat my body up, and I sleep significantly less than a human being should.  I don't have five years to spare living like this.  And I can't wait five years to feel my healthiest and happiest.  So everyday, I prioritize fitness.  I prioritize self care.  I go so far as to make time each hour of the day to do something that simply gives me some personal joy.  Some days that means taking a 20 minute Starbucks break at 3PM.  Most days it means leaving work by 4PM to make 430 Pilates.  Once in awhile it means spending 10 minutes shopping the Nordstrom semiannual sale online.  Every single time, it adds value and happiness to my world.  I'm a significantly better human when I take five minutes to put me first instead of waiting even five days to make me a priority.

Nobody said you should be working every second of every day, but if you're not making the moments count now - how do you ever plan to achieve the big moments down the road?

Product Placement

Do you ever click on those celebrity posts where they share their affordable beauty secrets with you but their idea of affordable is a $75 eye cream?  I get it, they really work and $75 for 6 months worth of product seems reasonable.  But being a woman means we aren't just buying one product.  So if I need to buy my usual 5+ products I'm using on the regular - $75 is just not reasonable for me.  

I'm far from a celebrity, but I'm a real woman, a 32 year old woman who is doing her best to stay young and fly just like you!  None of these products are sponsored.  I still haven't been offered a partnership with a product I'm ready to back so for now, I'm still just promoting what I love, for free.  Le sigh.

Makeup Remover

Even when I'm washing my face in the shower, I use a makeup remover first to gently remove any makeup on my face.  Aveeno Positively Radiant Makeup Wipes are my go to makeup remover because they get the job done, are super gentle on my sensitive skin, and smell amazing to boot!  Even better?  You can buy them at Target in packs of 25 for $5.99.

BB Cream

Again - I've got really sensitive, dry skin.  I also generally don't care for face makeup.  Having a BB cream that gives me hydration, sunscreen, and allows me to not have to use any other face makeup is my kind of product.  I'm loyal to Aveeno here with their Positively Radiant BB Cream.  I bought mine on Amazon for only $10 (Prime shipping included) but you can also get it at Target for $14.99.

Water Bottle

Staying hydrated is about the kindest thing you can do to your body.  I take my water consumption very seriously and that's why I purchased a Camelback Eddy 32oz water bottle that I keep with me at all times.  I easily get the gallon a day that's recommended to keep you healthy and my body/skin/mind thank me for it!  Bought mine on Amazon for $12.99.

Mascara

Mascara is my go to makeup product.  If I could only have one makeup product for the rest of my life, it would be Stila Huge mascara.  It's a little pricey for my taste, but at $23 it's not the most damage you could do to your wallet.  This mascara loves my lashes and my lashes love it back.  I received it in a Birchbox and have been addicted ever since!

What are your favorite beauty products?  Help a girl out!

 

 

I Write a Blog.

Most of the time - 99.9% of the time, I write this blog for me.  I write about the things I'm thinking, feeling, and going through.  It's really all about me.  But I thought to myself - sometimes you've got to give the people what they want!

SO - now is your chance.  Leave a comment, send me a message - tweet me - whatever!  Let me know what you struggle with, have questions about, want to hear my opinions about.  Pretty much anything is on the table because I've certainly got an opinion about everything!

Seriously - someone give me something fun to write about, I'm up for a challenge!

...And as always, thank you for the support my sequins!

The Most.

I've always been the definition of extra.  I'm loud, opinionated, bubbly, and I don't come with an off switch.  And for a really long time in life, I felt ashamed because people often called me too much.

I spent a very long time trying to tone down who I am to make others comfortable.  But it turns out, I can't be toned down.  And forever and always, I was born to sparkle.  

We all spend a good majority of our lives trying to figure out who we are and come to terms with all that means.  From a very young age, I knew I was this vivacious spirit.  But because a lot of other people told me that wasn't the right way to be, I believed them and tried to downplay who I am.

Today, I know that for a lot of people I may be a whole lot to handle.  It takes a lot of energy to engage with me.  But I'm also a lot of fun, a lot of joy, and one incredible human being.  I like to think I bring a lot to the table with my need to do the most.  I won’t apologize or feel shame for being a whole lot to handle because I am wholeheartedly a lot to love.

Life is really hard.  We've got jobs and bills and health and family and relationships - there's a lot to do and balance.  Do yourself a favor and figure out who you are at your core as soon as you possibly can and just own whoever that is.  And don't let anyone tell you there's anything wrong with whoever you decide that is.  

I Do Cool Shit.

I don't really know how to explain to people what I do for a living.  I plan events.  I'm in marketing.  Sometimes I do PR.  Branding?  Definitely.  The one thing I can say for certain is that I do a lot of cool shit.

I work really hard.  I often work long hours, live on airplanes, and deal with jerks.  There are many days that I have not the slightest clue why I stay in this industry.  

But I've also gotten to plan, experience, and take part in some of the coolest events in the world.  

Let's review:

  • Sat court side at too many NBA games to count 
  • Been on the field at the University of Alabama looking up at 102,000 fans
  • Watched an NFL game on the sidelines with the team
  • Led the event planning for the first ever Cheetos themed restaurant (which Mariah Carey attended)
  • Been on ESPN (terrible hair day guys, that one I’m not proud of) 
  • Took dancing lessons from Casper Smart
  • Worked with the Commissioner of the NBA
  • Played a prank on PJ Tucker
  • Ate a $5,000 dinner at a steakhouse at The Wynn
  • Flown private multiple times
  • Planned a bowl game tailgate
  • Stood beside Tiger Woods at the Waste Management Open
  • Assisted the College Playoffs in planning their hospitality for the National Championship
  • Attended Super Bowl media day behind the scenes
  • Met Elton John by running directly into him in the basement of an arena
  • Started tailgating at my alma mater
  • Interviewed Randall Park 
  • Planned the first ever State of the Suns 
  • Published an article in the Sports Business Journal
  • Worked alongside Brittney Griner and Diana Taurasi (two of the best to ever play) 
  • Haven't paid for a ticket to a sporting event since 2010
  • Led the planning for the first ever Wendy's college tailgate tour
  • Written talking points for athletes, owners, and Presidents of teams
  • Sat in John Elway's private suite at Mile High Stadium
  • Engaged in some joke telling and witty banter with Joel McHale
  • Executed the auction that helped to raise over $500,000 for my Alma Mater Athletic department  
  • Put on a private event in a home that housed the 2007 NBA All star court 
  • Traveled to Hawaii 3 times completely paid for by my company
  • Exhanged emails with Troy freaking Aikman  
  • Calmed down nervous NFL players before they took part in half time just for fun games  
  • Executed the most successful WNBA All Star fan fest in league history (with truly the most talented group I’ve ever worked with)
  • Had my photo(s) hung in an arena as part of the apparel Shop campaign  
  • I have a WNBA championship ring  (with Diamonds, duh) 

...and the list goes on.

The things is - I often get so wrapped up in the work of it all, I rarely stop to take a look around at what I've had the honor of being involved in.  Recently I've made it a goal to stop at each event and take in the magnitude of what I've done (usually in conjunction with one bad ass team).  

As much as I often question this world I work in the older I get, I also don't know what I would ever do if I didn't get to check off my bucket list because of what I do.  

My challenge to you - take a look at your job and if even on the worst days you find a reason to smile, understand that you've found your fit.  And if you can't say that, for the love of everything short in life - get a new job! 

Side Hustle

These days, everybody has a side hustle.  Between Beach Body, Rodan and Fields, Lula Roe, the endless boutiques, consultants for everything you can think of - it's impossible to avoid seeing the impact of the side hustle in todays world.  

The goal of the side hustle is to make it your main hustle.  It's what you do to get yourself ahead build your income, and to eventually allow yourself to be your own boss.  

As long as I can remember, I've wanted to be a writer.  It took me a really long time to realize how much of a role writing has played in my life, but now that I know it's my passion, it's all I can think about.  This blog, and now the work I do consulting, guest blogging, and ghost writing - these things are my side hustle so that one day I can confidently say that I am a writer, and my own boss.

I think a lot of people out there have passions that aren't in line with what they're currently doing in their career.  They want to make a change but starting can be overwhelming.  They vow to do something and might start the journey, but excuses come up and the dream is put on hold.  I've been there.  I did that for years.  I talked and talked about how I wanted to start a blog, write a book - and I started those things, and then I stopped.  But having been consistent for a year and a half of this website has instilled in me a fire to never stop.  And if I can do it, you can too.

Create Clarity

Figure out what your goals are and write them down.  Be concise, be specific, and be extremely detailed.  Post these goals somewhere you will see them every single day.  Keep a notebook with you at all times where these goals are also written down and where you can jot down your ideas and tasks towards developing the goals.  The point is to have no confusion or room for uncertainty - if you write these goals down - they're real and they're in front of you every single day.  It's a lot harder to walk away from a dream when you're constantly faced with the realization that its just a dream.

Stop Making Excuses

I work a lot.  I travel a lot.  I'm a social person.  I like to workout.  I have a dog.  I'm tired.  I am the queen of excuses.  I'll give you excuses you've never even heard before and the little dream crusher inside of me she backs up these excuses.  In order to make anything happen - you've got to give up those excuses.  And you've got to hold yourself accountable.  Your excuses are BS, and you've got to remind yourself if it's important to you, you'll make it happen.  Sacrifices will have to be made.  You will give up time where you would rather be with friends, family, partying, sleeping, whatever - but you have to carve out time to work on your dreams or they're again, just dreams.

Have a Plan

People who don't have concrete plans make me insane.  I plan for a living and I understand the detail and precision that must go into plans in order to achieve goals.  I want to be a writer but simply having a plan to write isn't a plan that's going to succeed.  I need a strategy for content, a brand, and a means of pushing my brand out to the world.  And I've got to double check each of these steps with ROI so that I know what works and what doesn't.  I don't want to be another one of those bloggers who thinks success comes from just writing when I can, putting content out when I have it and hoping my cute face will get me followers.  Without a plan, the dream is still - just. a. dream.

Accountability

Speak your plans into the world.  Tell your squad about your goals and plans.  There's something real about putting your dreams into the world where others know about them.  You're kind of a loser if you're the friend who talks about doing all the time and never follows through.  I don't like being around those people, I don't trust those people to follow through for me if they can't even follow through for themselves.  Hold yourself accountable by being open about the dream, the plan, and the steps you're  taking to make the dream more than just a dream.

Dreams are so freaking cool.  People with big dream and passions are my favorite people to surround myself with.  And seeing people achieve their dreams after all the hard work they put in to make it happen - that's magic.  Respect the magic of a side hustle and if you do it right, your dreams will be anything but just dreams - they'll become your reality.

 

 

Professionally Social

I've met a lot of people lately who are either not on or do not utilize LinkedIn.  They don't see the value of another form of social media or they're not sure how to be socially active professionally.  I can confidently say that LinkedIn, when used correctly, is a huge resource for networking and seeking out business opportunities you might not have otherwise found.

Let's start with the basics:

LinkedIn is NOT Facebook

While LinkedIn is in fact another form of social media, it's intended for professional use.  Treat it as such  or you risk losing respect as a professional in the world of business.  Keep your profile picture appropriate.  Limit your posts to content that has to do with work.  Skip the emojis and selfies.  If you don't want your boss or the owner of your company seeing it, don't post it.  

Don't Add Contacts Just to Add Contacts

If you don't know someone or have not done business with them, do not click add.  Should you want to connect with someone because you think they would help you grow your network in a positive way, take the time to write a note about your intentions.  Who cares if you have 5,000 connections if they're not meaningful engagements.   

LinkedIn is NOT a Dating Site

It's entirely inappropriate to utilize LinkedIn as a dating service.  Do not hit on people.  Do not send unprofessional correspondence.  I respect people and their companies less if they choose to engage with me in any way that does not respect the boundaries of a professional interaction.  I've gone so far as to report someone to their company for sexual messaging.  Leave the romance to Bumble and don't risk making yourself or your company look bad.

Be Socially Active

Take the time to keep your profile up to date.  Spend time building your profile to represent who you are as a professional.  LinkedIn is an online resume, take it as seriously as you would the resume you send to companies you're applying to.  Additionally, engage in meaningful conversation, post content relevant to your industry, and build your brand through showcasing your work.  I check LinkedIn daily and try to post a few times a week.  It's allowed me to connect with people in my industry and gain feedback into my work.

Network Network Network

LinkedIn is for networking.  Never forget that it's an opportunity to engage with other professionals in a positive way.  Put yourself out there and connect with people who can help you grow.  Also be willing to provide growth for those around you.  And never forget to be authentic in how you build relationships or you won't find much success in networking overall.  

I've made some incredible connections on LinkedIn and even been offered legitimate roles.  It's an incredibly underutilized tool that can help you grow your career and build a strong personal brand.  And in a world where it's all about who you know, why wouldn't you want to give yourself every advantage possible?

 

All My Friends Are Getting Botox

Self care and anti aging techniques have certainly changed over the last decade and now that I'm in my 30's, I'm noticing more and more that all of my friends are utilizing injections to keep up.  Whether it be Botox, peels, fillers - things I don't even know about, women younger and younger are trying them.  

I'm team do you boo.  Meaning I am all for doing whatever you want to your body as long as it makes you happy.  Whether it be Botox to extreme plastic surgery, it's your body, you do you.

Personally, I'm both curious and absolutely terrified of injections.  I like to do my research.  I need long term, sound data from reputable companies.  And then I also need testimonials from about 382 people before I even make an initial consultation.  That being said, I will most likely (LOL, make that WILL) have some "work" done at some point in my life.

I wanted to talk about this because of how common it is becoming, how much women are talking about it with each other, and how much it still carries a bit of a taboo.  

Aging has always been a battle for women.  Men seem to get more distinguished and become sexier with grey hair and women have to do everything possible to prevent the wrinkles, greys, sagging and lines.  And while I'm all for aging gracefully, owning getting older as a gift, I'm still a bit vain and I'd like to avoid some of these things in the process.

There are so many options for injections, lasers, peels - I sunk into an entire black hole the other night looking at just how many procedures exist.  Honestly, it's all really overwhelming as someone who just figured out what clay masks are.  But it's also really cool because this girl loves research and she loves good skin.  I also happen to have a secret weapon - a best babe who is in the industry, and she knows her shit.

I like to think most women who hit 30 are at least semi curious about all the options when it comes to aging. I've been very lucky and I have some great skin.  But at 32, I've started noticing the small imperfections and I'd love to explore what I can do to fix these as well as what to do as I continue to get older.

I want to keep it natural and I'm really into preserving what I've got going on.  So I'm starting small.  Microdermabrasion.  I don't even think this qualifies as work, I think it's just an intense facial.  But it's going to be the first thing I do outside of face masks and creams and I'm excited to see the results.

All of my friends are getting Botox.  And while I'm not there yet, you bet your ass one day I'll be there, and then some (probably sooner than I think!).  Obviously, you've got to do what works for you - whether that be to not touch what the world gave you or go full reconstruction, do your research, meet with a doctor, ask your friends - and then do what makes you healthy and HAPPY!

Ears Closed

Lately - everyone wants to talk, but nobody wants to listen.  For some reason, politics have become more divisive than ever.  It's seemingly very important to have two distinct categories of people - liberal and conservative.  

Instead of engaging in meaningful conversation - discussion even - we are at odds in a way that lends  itself to fierce battle.  If someone disagrees with you, there's a heated back and forth until someone finally gives up, shoots a hateful retort and leaves the conversation.  Ultimately this leads to one person accusing the other of being unable to accept anyone who isn't like them.  and the other person accusing that first person of being hateful and ignorant.  And so the cycle continues.

Some things we all need to understand to create an environment conducive to change:

  1. There is ONE side here, it's humanity.  We all live here, we all have to find a way to make it work or shit's about to get really unsafe for us all.  
  2. We all have to give up some pride and be willing to truly listen and be open to a middle ground
  3. Not one person EVER needs to accept hate, ignorance, or bigotry into their world.  If you are engaging with someone who simply does not understand they are speaking from a place of privilege, racism, sexism - remove yourself from that situation.  That's not refusing to accept a different opinion, that's refusing to accept we have to continue the cycle we are currently in.
  4. Time is up.  We don't have anymore time to keep fighting each other.  Compromises have to be made and action has to be taken. NOW

I'm going to keep it 100 - I threw up in my purse hungover less than six months ago, so relying on me for all of the answers, that's probably not how we should save the world.  But I think we can look to me for some guidance on how to start engaging in a better way.  And even if we can't, I'm going to try.

  1. Communicate: Talk with others, not to them.  It's respectable to stand by your opinion, but sometimes it's important to understand when your opinion isn't relevant, respectful, or productive.  Stop already crafting a response to someone's opinion before you've even heard what they have to say.  Everyone wants to peak but nobody wants to listen.  For example.  Gun policy.  I don't really care if you think we need them or should ban them all - we have to all understand what we have right now is not working.  So let's all be open to finding out what will work, getting research and facts around that and then committing to something that works.  
  2. Educate: Everyone is an expert.  Everyone has facts.  Realistically, we are all probably mostly wrong or relying on the wrong sources.  Educate yourself.  Find legitimate sources for your news and facts.  To be very clear, there is no doubt Fox News is incredibly bias so lets all stop kidding ourselves there.  Understand where studies are funded when you quote their facts.
  3. Equality: At the end of the day, everyone is deserving of equality so if that's not something you're willing to accept or engage with, you've got to understand we are leaving you behind in this discussion.  If you accept racism, sexism, hate, bigotry as existing in your world - if you refuse to acknowledge we have a problem with privilege and racism - we have to drop you off here because the future deserve better.

I see a lot of people in the world engaging with other people in the ugliest way.  I've been accused of being hateful and not open to other opinions myself - and while that's extremely misguided (and often from the people who don't understand racism or privilege) - I think it would be ignorant of me not to pause and review what I say when that does occur.  Not one of us is perfect, and we all have moments that we get too heated.  So if you have the opportunity to reflect and improve - do so - if only to help produce a more efficient future.  And ultimately, if you find yourself engaging with someone who truly isn't open to change - its important for your sanity - and for the sake of productivity - to simply wish them well and remove them from your world.  There's enough well meaning people out there - on both "sides" that we can create a better future for ourselves and generations to come.